Child Discipleship: Children Developing A Relationship With The Triune God

Since writing the introduction to this topic (click here if you haven’t read Part 1  Emphasis of Your Children’s Ministry )the Lord has taken me on the most difficult and pain filled walk of my life.

Jesus4childrenThe anguish of this walk has let me experience just how vital a strong RELATIONSHIP with the Triune God is. It isn’t the Biblical knowledge that has given me the strength to  put one foot in front of the other (although that knowledge is vital to the outcome) – it has been the strong relationship I have with the Triune God.

I awoke in the middle of the night sobbing, totally alone; then I sensed the presence of Jesus. I KNEW He was with me as He has been since childhood.

Through the years, of an often difficult life, a film has played in my head… crowds gather around Jesus as He walks quickly through the city streets; He is determined in His walk and the crowd separates so He can move quickly. I am clinging to the hem of Jesus’ robe as He drags me behind Him.

 I don’t know why but that strange moving picture always has brought me comfort. 

Christmas, 2014

In the midst of a pain I never thought I would experience…  suddenly the above moving picture changed during worship with my daughter at a Christmas boutique. 

I am lying on the ground in a fetal position, Jesus is kneeling on His haunches next to me with one hand on me; He is continually looking out and around in a protective way, there are no other people in the picture. I wonder where the crowds have gone. 

3/15/15 The picture has changed again. 

I’m still physically in the fetal position; however as if my soul is beginning to cautiously look around, lifted above my body – what is that? Jesus I still see/feel Your gentle hand upon me as I lay there. You are still diligently looking, watching what is out around us. I see only the two of us.

 Thank you for this picture of comfort Almighty God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit 

I look forward to the day when we are walking through the streets hand-in-hand.

 It is this relationship with the Triune God that keeps me growing through all the pain. I know I’m not alone. I don’t know how this present circumstance will be worked out; I don’t know if there are more difficulties that lie ahead, I do know I can hold to the promise of Romans 8, including vs’s 17 and 28. I know I can cling to these truths because of the relationship I have with Almighty God.

How do we help children to develop this kind of loving relationship with the Triune God? (these are random thoughts – please add your own thoughts in the comments)


  • Those who provide the intentional discipleship to children share their own walk with the Triune God – both the good and the difficult.
    • Disciplers cry with children and laugh with them.
    • Disciplers share joys, suffering, struggles with sin and the victory of overcoming.
    • Disciplers make no false promises – every promise is backed with Biblical truth.
  • God is all knowing, all powerful and all loving – God is sovereign.
  • The Bible is the final authority.
    • Children are taught the “whole counsel” of God. Acts 20:27
  • The Triune God is always the hero.
    • Demonstrate the importance of and how to make God the hero in their own story – everything is about God.
  • Humans are always in need of the Triune God.
    • Wisdom and strength to make right choices.
    • Forgiveness when wrong choices are made and the heart is repentant.
  • Children are taught from preschool that there is suffering; that God has a plan and a purpose for the suffering.
  • When the Fruit of the Spirit (or other such teaching) is taught it is clear that this Fruit is only given to those who have joined the Family of God through repentance, surrender, receiving God’s gift of grace – forgiveness.
  • Know child development so that all teaching is done according to how God created children to learn.


  • Primary Disciplers talk often with their kids about their own walk with the Triune God.
    • Cry with them and laugh with them.
    • Share joys, suffering, struggles with sin and the victory of overcoming.
    • No lies, no false promises – always truth you can show them in the Bible.
  • Primary Disciplers pray sacrificially for their children.
  • Demonstrate the importance of and how to make God the hero in one’s own story.
  • The Family of God provides discipleship for Primary Disciplers.
    • Be emphatic about their need to be discipled so they can disciple their children.
  • Teach Primary Disciplers it is important for children to EXPERIENCE Biblical truth. Giving children the opportunity to experience the power of God
  • Primary Disciplers are discipled as they are trained to disciple other Primary Discipler’s children.

What else should we be doing to guide children to develop a strong relationship with the Triune God?  Please share.


About Wanda

I have worked with children and families for over 40 years in both secular and Christian settings. • Following college I joined VISTA (Volunteers In Service To America) and served in a migrant labor camp in Texas. • After VISTA I married Joe Parker. Joe was a Boy’s Club Director and we served in several inner city and barrio areas in So. California. • I served as Children’s Director and Family Pastor in three Orange County Churches. During this time I was a co—founder of CCMA • Right after the Los Angeles riots, and while serving as Family Pastor at Mariners Church in Newport Beach, Campus Crusade approached me to develop a reproducible ministry to reach children in inner city areas of America, known today as S.A.Y. Yes! Centers of America. • In 1998 I was invited along with 25 others, representing every continent of the world, to be part of a symposium in England. This was the initial gathering for the creation of a curriculum to equip people working with children living in difficult circumstances. Celebrating Children is taught today in Christian universities around the world. • In 2001 KidTrek was begun, a unique ministry to equip the Church to disciple children. Married for 47 years, I have three married children and eight grandchildren who walk with the Lord. The greatest gift a mother could ever have.
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